|March 21, 2014 8:30 AM – 5:30
Adults healing from child abuse
The Sixth + Annual It Happens to Boys
Desert Princess Resort
Palm Springs, Calif.
$125.00 includes lunch.
Special discount CAMFT, and students
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|If you are a Man who has been
abused as a child we offer free
group counseling The Third
Tuesday of the Month. Call
760-346-4606 to sign up
|Who Should Attend?
Partners of Survivors.
Men and Women
hours for MFT, LCSW,
Jerry Moe, Director of the Children’s
Programs for the Betty Ford Center
has been changing the lives of
children living in addicted families for
years. With his gentle humor and
heartfelt words, children respond to
Jerry like the Pied Piper. Jerry gives
\children tools to speak up and talk
about their feelings.
Jerry will share stories of recovery,
behaviors to watch for and some
healing techniques for children and
Allen Berger, Ph.D
Dr. Allen Berger is an internationally
recognized expert in
Gestalt- Experiential Psychotherapy and
in the science of recovery from addiction.
He wrote Hazelden’s popular recovery
mainstay 12 Stupid Things that Mess Up
Recovery (2008) His latest book focuses
on the hidden rewards of making amends.
It’s titled, 12 Hidden Rewards of Making
Amends (2013).Dr. Berger will be
presenting a workshop on Self-Hate, one
of the most common causes for relapse
that often goes undiagnosed. Dr Berger
takes the listener through a revealing
discussion of this deadly and insidious
process. Step to address this deadly foe
are also offered.
Dan Griffin’s groundbreaking
book, A Man’s Way through the
Twelve Steps, is the first trauma-
informed book to take a holistic
look at men’s sobriety. He also
co-authored Helping Men
Recover, the first
curriculum for men with national
expert, Dr. Stephanie
Covington, and Rick Dauer,
Clinical Director, River Ridge
Treatment Center. Griffin was
awarded the President’s Award
in 2006 for leadership in the
addiction and recovery field by
MARRCH, the state’s
association of addiction
Tonya Meeks. MFT received her MA in Counseling
Psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute and her BA
in Performance from New College of California. Tonya
Meeks, LMFT specializes in Addiction, Dual Diagnosis,
and Complex Trauma. Tonya possesses immense
passion for performance creating two one-woman
shows: Open Eyes and Flying Standby. Tonya’s
academic thesis, a memoir: Flying Standby: Sojourns
with a Devouring Gypsy Mother demonstrated the
catharsis of telling the story of her narcissistically
wounded and addicted
Flying Standby - be prepared to take off!
Scott Johnson, a licensed
Addictions Counselor working
for the last 28 years in the
service of helping families and
children, he has published two
books in Japan. Scott’s
workshop will help men heal.
Our Speakers: Scott Smith, Carol Teitelbaum, MFT, Randy Boyd, David Price and Daniel Marquez
It Happens To Boys, Too
by Carol Teitelbaum
One in four boys will be sexually abused this year and they won’t tell a soul.
Instead, they will repress their feelings, try to forget the abuse never happened
and simply move on.
But these boys won’t really move on. Emotionally they will stay frozen in the
space of the abuse while going through the motions of an ordinary life. They
may physically grow, excel in certain areas and even do a good job at feigning
normality but eventually their lives will start to exhibit the inevitable signs of
the unresolved abuse brought about through conscious and subconscious
triggers. This may manifest as problems with intimate relationships, rage at
authority, an inability to follow through, lowered self esteem, self-medication
through addiction to drugs and alcohol, reliance on porn and other deviant
measures for arousal, self destructive tendencies and severe depression.
Why don’t boys tell? Society as a whole hasn’t done a very good job at making
the male sex feel comfortable with sharing their feelings in general let alone the
ones that make them feel raw, exposed and scared. Boys are told from a very
early age to be “manly” not “wimpy” and unfortunately learn that showing
emotions and pain coincide with the latter. When abused by women, some boys
are afraid to tell because they think other boys will make fun of them for not
liking it. Or they are afraid other boys will mock them for complaining about it.
Alternatively, if boys are abused by men, they fear their peers will now think
they are gay. It the abused boy is gay, he will dread being told by others that he
indeed wanted it or asked for it. Even though this type of abuse is about gaining
power over someone else and not sexual identity, the shame and
embarrassment that oftentimes ensues around sexuality in young people also
causes them to remain tight-lipped. In all of these cases, it’s an unfortunate
truth that boys prefer to keep the abuse inside and pretend it never occurred.
It’s our job as professionals in the healing fields to destroy these myths and
create new dialogues where boys can feel safe not only to share but also to
participate in their own healing. We need to educate our teachers and parents
about this epidemic and arm them with tools on not only teaching boys early
that manhood contains both strong masculinity and authentic vulnerability but
that it’s okay and essential to talk about these things that happen to them
without feeling ashamed. We need to create dialogues that support this new
direction in schools and communities so that we can reach these boys while
they are young, not merely waiting to address the problems that come out later
in life when they’ve already become accustomed to the jails and rehab centers.
Let’s teach them how to start up the hill from the bottom rather than waiting
until they fall off and hit rock bottom.
The 6th Annual “It Happens to Boys, Too” Conference February 28 – March 1,
8:30 a.m. to 5:30 p.m.
Desert Princess Resort
Palm Springs, Calif.
This annual event held by Creative Change Conferences brings together
speakers, authors, survivors, therapists, social workers and healers to address
the subject of male childhood abuse.
All are welcome to attend including mental health professionals, survivors,
those in recovery, students, teachers, parents, and members of the community.
Continuing Education Credits are available.
For more information, www.creativechangeconferences.com or email Carol
Teitelbaum at email@example.com.
Professionals and Student
"It Happens To Boys" Conference
is the most professionally fulfilling
conference I participate in thanks to
the quality of speakers, the
excellent and engaging topics and
presentations but also due the high
quality of production that Carol and
her staff provides. I very much look
forward to participating in next
year's event knowing it will be
powerful and life-changing for
those who participate." John Lee
author of The Flying Boy and 20
It's inspiring to participate in a
acknowledging the impact of
trauma on men's lives and
pursuing a complex
understanding of men's behaviors
are accepted as the foundations
of the work rather than being
considered re voluntary ideas!"
Peter Pollard, MPA
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To Have our group present our "It Happens to
Boys" workshop at your facility, school, or
conference. Please contact:
Carol Teitelbaum, MFT 760-346-4606
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